My husband and I were downstairs watching “The International” when all of a sudden we heard this huge “whump” right above our heads. Good God, we had no idea what it could be as we had safely tucked our boys in their beds a few hours earlier.
After running upstairs, we discovered our oldest boy, Jon Jon had not only found his way in our bed, but he managed to fall out of it. After a few minutes of my husband debating taking him to the emergency room and arguing if he was okay, we finally agreed I’d just sit with him to make sure he was all right.
For 45 minutes, I held ice to his eye and rocked him in my arms and was simply present. No cell phone, no text, no email. Not 16 other things to do around the house. No bills to pay or clients to get back to. Just time standing still when I held and appreciated the beautiful being that is my son.
How many times are we in the middle of something important when we let the beeps, buzzes and rings of technology get in our way? There was a study done that shows multitasking actually lowers IQ, even more than smoking or marijuana use.
Even more important than IQ, however, is our level of fulfillment and impact.
How much more connected would we be to those who matter most – our spouse, children, family members, friends, colleagues and clients – if we practiced the art of presence and let whoever is right in front of us be the most important element at hand?
I can tell you with certainty, there is no message anyone could send me that is more important than my children, or any member of my immediate family. My commitment is not to let a crisis be what reminds me of that.